September 23 is always
a special day for our family. It’s the anniversary of my mum’s passing, and my
partner Christian’s birthday. People sometimes ask is it strange to have those
two things on the same day. I always say no, it more feels like a poignant
reminder of the cycle of life. People
are being born every day, and people leave this Earth every day. Experiencing
the death of someone close to you often makes you have a stronger connection to
life and living, as you truly realise that your time here is not forever. So
this annual honouring of a birth and a death is really a simultaneous honouring
and celebration of life.
Quite fittingly, it co-incides with the Equinox when day
and night are equal in length. I like this energetic influence, adding to the
reminder that on this see-saw of life we can find a harmony and balance when we
look at the value of all things rather than putting them in categories of ‘good’
and ‘bad’. The Equinox asks us to
respect both sides of the see-saw: winter has a purpose, grief can be cleansing
and transformational.
Equinox
and all of Nature also teaches us that life keeps moving, all the time. Equinox
only lasts 24 hours before the days start getting longer (or shorter depending
on which hemisphere you’re in). We are
shown that nothing lasts forever so appreciate what you have while you have it.
We are also shown that no matter how bad things look or feel, ‘this too shall
pass’. Spring always follows winter, and the sun always rises even after the
darkest of nights.
Our
mum had a big heart, and now in the non-physical I know she has even bigger
wings, ready to help anyone who asks just as she did in life. One of her
greatest wishes was to make her healings ‘bigger, bigger’, and so most years on
this day I say to everyone who needs it: if you need a mum hug, or some healing
vibes from someone who had a knack of never judging anyone, ask for Miki
upstairs. She’s the one with all the jingly jewellery, giggling away.
© Dana Mrkich 2014
