Monday, September 14, 2015

Lessons about living from dying

It's 29 years today since my grandfather passed. Strong as an ox he survived six heart attacks, only to have a truck accident one evening and that was that. It was so sudden, so unexpected, and no chance to say bye (which took my mum almost the rest of her life to make peace with).

I remember so clearly realising that we never know when our life could be over, or that of someone we love. This realisation affected me in so many ways:

- Tell those you love how you feel about them, and tell them often

- Try not to leave anything unsaid where you feel deep down you really want to say something.

- We all have our argumentative moments with loved ones, we all lead busy lives, but a quick hug and an "I love you" before they or you drive off for the day is always a good thing

- Do what you love. Life is not a dress rehearsal. No-one is guaranteed anything in terms of life expectancy. It drives me nuts when people say "I'll do that when I retire." We know so many people who passed unexpectedly over the last few years who were 20, 30, 40 years old. If there is something your heart really wants to do, find a way to do it. Be happy now. Love your life now. So many people live unhappy lives in unhappy careers in unhappy relationships, with an idea that they'll get to be happy at 60 or 70, but as Abraham Hicks say "You can't get to a happy destination after an unhappy journey." Choose happy now. Find happy now. Discussion on this point is most welcome.

Everyone reading this has been affected by someone's passing. What did you learn from their physical death that taught you something about life and living?

Please share here. x

(c) Dana Mrkich 2015


  1. Hi Dana, thanks for this post. I felt visited by real awareness of how short and precious life is this weekend. It provoked a deep feeling of so where is the relationship/family I feel so called to experience in this lifetime? Do we pass over with great yearnings unfulfilled? What can I do today to make my heart sing on this? Xx

    1. When you want something is it SO hard to do one thing that helps let it in and that is to feel/act as if you already have it. Easier said than done I know! Energy being energy, when we deeply crave/yearn for something we are actively sending out the vibration of 'I don't have it" "I lack this thing". Which re-creates that energy.

      Wealthy people know this in relation to money, and that is why a billionaire will always go back to being a billionaire even when he goes bankrupt because he feels "I am wealthy and successful" in the core of his being.

      Start to feel your partner lying next to you, almost like the etheric version of him is lying next to you in your bed - the physical will catch up. According to Abraham-Hicks, our reality is created something like 98% in the etheric before it shows up in the physical, and so that intense craving/longing is often a sign that physical manifestation is imminent. It is often a sign that your etheric is pretty much close to that 98% and that is why it can feel SO crazy that it feels so close yet not here physically yet.

      So I want you to get into that excited anticipation feeling of: Oh my gosh, he is here, he is here, he is here!!!!

      Do we pass over with great yearnings unfulfilled? I wish I could say otherwise, but of course we do. I know that from watching my mum pass shortly after she turned 51. That said, from a Soul perspective we pass once our Soul has done what it needed to do - our Soul truth/goals can be very different to what we feel we want to do/achieve/experience.

      As much as possible, do whatever you can to feel happy as if all you have is here now. Anytime I'm in a slump and make the effort to get into that space, something shifts or some little or big positive thing happens.

      Lots of love x

    2. Thanks Dana. I watercoloured a sign for above my bed " he's here! My soul dream begins! Woohoo!" Even though I had to move through the sadness of him not being here to do it. It worked. I feel like I've shifted to: as life is so short and astounding then bring on the goodies!! Thanks for your wisdom and patience. Xxx

  2. Hi Dana, this makes me think of the German politian who had almost won the election as lord mayor of a smaller town nearby last Sunday and then dropped dead just like that even before the polling station closed, at the age of 57! - Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this issue of life and death (which does not exist in reallity as we have learned nowadays...)! see
    Greetings, Anna