If your life was a building, with every floor representing a certain emotion that you end up feeling time and again, which floor do you end up spending the most time on?
There is a 'set-point' theory that
states we all have certain conditions we naturally revert back to
despite any actions we take or dreams we have to change those
conditions. Thus it's often the case that the billionaire who goes
bankrupt will end up a billionaire again. The person who has spent a
lifetime, and generations, in financial hardship, will commonly end up
with no money again years after winning the lottery. A person often goes
back to the same weight range repeatedly regardless of what they eat.
So too, if we are used to feeling disappointed, rejected or unsupported
we will regularly re-invite that emotion into our life. Our eyes may be
firmly fixed on an experience we want that exists on the penthouse
level. We may even manage to get our lift to take us up there, and
mingle in that environment for some time. However, if our emotional
set-point is still anchored in some deep-rooted floor below, that anchor
will yank us back down, making it hard to achieve, or maintain, our
penthouse dreams and desires.
It was a bit of a depressing
thought for set-point theorists to think that we can't change our
set-point lot in life, BUT studies AND lots of people's experiences are
showing that in fact we CAN change our set-points.
powerful humans with the ability to consciously un-choose our old
emotional set-points, and re-choose new emotional set points. Some of
the ways you can change your set point:
- Energy healing, ancestral clearing, cellular memory release via bodywork/kinesiology etc,
- Shadow work, journalling with your subconscious
- Intentionally changing your habits/thoughts/beliefs/behaviours,
catching yourself out when you are hanging out on the old floor and
manually re-setting your thoughts/actions to how the 'you' on the
penthouse level thinks and acts
- Sticking new beliefs and thoughts up all over the house on bits of paper
- Making a fierce committment to what you place your attention on both in the external and in your mind.
Most of us get so dejected by constantly ending up on our old floors
that we give up, or spend decades yo-yoing up and down without knowing
why. We often try to get there in one big leap, when it's the little,
moment by moment baby steps that will take us there slowly but steadily.
Actually, bypassing the baby steps practically guarantees we'll be
ejected out of the penthouse within minutes of arriving every time! Just
like lifting weights at the gym, we have to train our way there bit by
It's catching your mind throughout the day, and mid-old
thought changing the tape. It's focusing on the smallest of things
around you right now to give yourself regular tastes of your preferred
emotion. It takes conscious effort. It takes perseverance to get to the
point where your new emotional set point becomes your new normal.
Head on up to your penthouse level right now in your mind. Step out of
the lift onto that floor. Feel into how the you on that level thinks, acts and feels. How is that different from the current you? How is the penthouse
'you' different from the other levels you?
Don't pressure yourself to stay in the penthouse right this minute, just use this exercise to inform yourself:
What is the gap between where I am now, and where I want to be?
What qualities, aspects, beliefs do I need to strengthen?
What emotions would the penthouse me suggest I strive for, on a daily
basis, using what I have around me right now, to make my way up here and
Am I actually ready for my penthouse, and if so is it
just a matter of finally allowing myself to declare this to myself and
allow myself to step right in and own the me that is there?
Enjoy this exercise!
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(c) Dana Mrkich 2015